Learn to self soothe high-functioning anxiety to attract thriving relationships & create a life that nourishes you back!
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Most High-achieving Women Don't Know This...
Your most aligned partner is not as concerned with your degrees and achievements as you think they are.
Similarly, a fulfilling life, one that you’re incredible proud of, isn’t contingent on societal norms of success.
This is because your degrees & achievements don’t have a reciprocal value when it comes to intimacy, partnership, motherhood & family.
Although potential partners & colleagues are impressed by your accomplishments, they are most interested in how you love, starting with how you love yourself.
When we do this, our whole life changes because how we care for ourselves truly determines what we allow ourselves to receive.
If you are a high-achieving, highly-educated woman of color with the degrees and receipts to prove it, I see you sis.
I know you’re a highly educated boss building empires, potentially surpassing your male counterparts (we can’t hide the truth now ya’ll), breaking generational patterns, & crushing it in your respective field.
I also know that you’re deeply tired, lonely & operating in a constant state of high-functioning anxiety that we both know is not sustainable.
You’re ready for partnership, marriage, motherhood & an aligned professional life that nourishes you back.
I’ve been exactly where you are sis, & know that those things are absolutely available to you!
It’s about settling & soothing your nervous system to transition your body out of high-functioning anxiety & other unhealthy modes of being that keep you constantly striving.
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Performance is not Required to Receive What you Desire
After I recieved my BA in Political Science in 2010, I committed my entire life to achieving something great, whether it be in the legal field or beyond.
Despite extended periods of depression, loneliness, isolation & anxiety, I kept pursuing this need to achieve, to prove my worth.
I thought, “if I could just become successful” I would attract the ‘high-value’ man who’d validate years of never feeling like I was enough, & the affluent friendships I always wanted.
I also believed that would bring the mental, emotional & physical wellbeing I longed for because I could finally slow down.
It did not because it could not.
That is because my need to strive & prove was the metric I used to measure my worth, & as a result, I was dependent on my achievements to bring purpose & meaning to my entire existence, so, I continued to earn more achievements.
I didn’t know it at the time but this was a symptom of high-functioning anxiety, & so long as I was operating from this place of hyper-masculinity & dsyregulation, I would constantly be in a state of proving my worth to get what I wanted.
It wasn’t until I began to slow down & prioritize regulating my nervous system, that I was able receive my worth.
This not only moved me out of survival mode, it allowed me to process patterns of social anxiety that often led to substance abuse, attract connections that served ME, & receive the confidence to do the work I had always wanted.
This is where we thrive sis.
Workshop Details
Dates: TBA 2024
Meeting Days: Saturdays (weekly)
Time: 8-11am pt | 11am-2pm et
Hosted Virtually
What is the divine feminine?
The divine feminine is characterized by receptivity, or sustaining our power of reception in the face of external stimuli that would cause us to contract into patterns of resistance.
Embodying the divine feminine is about more than appealing to a partner. It’s about mastering this position of power for yourself first, in order expand your window of tolerance & create life, in all forms, from a state of reception.
I know you desire the ability to attract life-giving connections & create life-giving work that is rooted in reciprocity.
However, to do so we must understand the nature of the divine feminine & how it’s contingent on divine order, also known as the divine masculine.
Divine order is love, so our first call is to submit to divine order to love ourselves better.
That love directly correlates to the beliefs we subcribe to & the actions we take up every day to support those beliefs.
If you’re subscribing to the belief that you need to prove your worth or earn a life you’re proud of, I’m here to let you know, there is another way.
Let’s remove the veils of overachievement to soothe the parts of yourself that have been left uncared for so that you can stop hiding behind what you do & explore who you are from a position of receptivity.
Guide your body out of unhealthy modes of performance to settle your nervous system so you can thrive sis
The thing is, as high achieving & highly educated women of color, our quest for success & financial stability can often come from wanting to ensure we have more than what our families were able to provide us. However, the root of this belief only perpetuates living in survival mode, leading to high-functioning anxiety, performance & hyper perfectionism.
Although we may have more, our nervous systems are still dsyregulated & operating in fight/flight, similarly to that of our family, so the generational pattern continues.
We become disembodied in our divine feminine in this place, sacrificing our desire for mutually-edifying partnerships & impact-driven careers to produce results.
While we’re producing, we’re not attracting or creating much of anything. It’s here that we find ourselves emotionally shielded, anxious & unable to meet our gnawing desire to experience more love.
Sis, you can experience more mutually-edifying connections that lead to committed partnerships, & create an impact-driven career of your dreams without sacrificing your mental, emotional & physical wellbeing.
If you’re achieving to fulfill a childhood need to:
- feel seen
- feel validated
- feel worthy
- feel like you're enough
- feel accepted
I want to let you know the achievement is not required to fill the need, YOU ARE.
You, embodied, to discern what you want to receive instead of clinging to that which no longer serves you because you believe you have no other options.
You do, let me show you.
You can self soothe those BIG feelings & neutralize your nervous system to:
Cultivate self awareness to clearly articulate what you want in a partner & give yourself permission to desire it
Confidently allow yourself to be seen as desirable to someone you want based on who you are, not what you do
Self soothe & emotionally regulate yourself when you feel triggered in your personal & professional life
Sustain healthy boundaries so you can walk away from relationships that do not serve you & confidently attract new connections
Create a life you & your family are proud of outside of the corporate structure/ ladder
Enjoy better options & choices in your professional & personal life so you can enjoy the best from a place of ease
Live slower to reduce burn out & anxiety without feeling guilty for not working at a certain pace
Workshop Overview
This workshop is for high-achieving women of color committed ready to release high-functioning anxiety to start performing and start being.
Each session will begin with a divine Hatha Yoga practice rooted in 1 of the 6 archetypes of the divine feminine to help you embody this knowledge somatically. Followed by deeply interactive lectures and discussions in the areas of study listed above.
Friday, Sept 15:
Opening Ceremony
Brave Space Agreements
Saturday, Sept 16:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Submitting to Divine Order
Energetic Anatomy - the Chakras, Nadis & Prana
Integrating the Queen Mother Archetype
Element - Earth
Saturday, Sept 23:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Practice of Slow Living
Understanding the Nervous System
Conscious Creation
Integrating the Lover Archetype
Element - Water
Saturday, Sept 30:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Ancestral Freedom - 3 prong path
Integrating the Warrioress
Element - Fire
Saturday, Oct 7:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Embodiment
Moon cycle + cleansing rituals
Integrating the Wise Woman
Element - Air
Saturday, Oct 14:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Receptivity vs. Resistance
Integrating the Priestess
Conscious Creation Manifested
Element - Water
Saturday, Oct 21:
Divine Hatha yoga practice
Acceptance of light & shadow
My nature revealed
Integrating the Goddess
Element - Ether
What You’ll Leave With
Divine feminine handbook with DFYW areas of study + prompts for continued, daily reflections
Evidence-based, nervous system regulating yoga, breathwork & meditation practices
Trauma-informed techniques & rituals to self soothe high-functioning anxiety
Map of the chakra system & their correlation to the divine feminine archetypes + elements
Supportive network of women of color committed to divine feminine embodiment
Self study practices to process dense emotions & live slow
What Clients Are Saying!
This workshop is for you if you’re a high-achieving, highly-educated woman of color ready to learn how to navigate through high-functioning anxiety to regulate your nervous system
that is also a high-earner but are incredible unfulfilled by the work you do
are ready to transition out of your high-stress career but don't know what's stopping you
find yourself operating in your divine masculine and as a result, feel disconnected from your body
that is incredible confident at work but are also afraid to be seen for who you are beyond what you do
feeling stuck in your personal and professional life but aren't aware of what to change or how
wanting to rid yourself of constant busyness and urgency in order to live slow
experiencing deep nervous system fatigue from high-functioning anxiety
desiring greater alignment in intimacy and partnership but feel disconnected from your body
Who Am I?
Hey sis!
My name is Abiola Akanni. I’m the Nigerian American yoga educator and founder of the Non-performative Yoga™ school, iya with over 8 years experience. The practice found me over 10 years ago, and has continued to support my sobriety and the care of my subtle body.
I've created sought after online and in-person yoga programs, events and retreats such as Trap Flow (previously known as Trap Vinyasa) where we toured over 50+ yoga studios to share our body positive, hip hop yoga practice.
I hosted Trap Flow’s annual “Master of Ceremony” retreat in Kauai, Hawaii, as well as our “Body Party” panel and series in Seattle and Miami which focused on sexual wellness and brought in over 100 participants.
I designed the Divine Feminine Yoga Workshop which I then went on to teach (a yoga-only version) as an Alo Moves coach and is still one of their most sought after programs today. In addition to building wellness programs and initiatives for several institutions like the Institute of Functional Medicine, Stanford, Microsoft, Hulu, Nordstrom Corporate, Google, Strong Fitness Magazine, Boeing and more.
I know where you are because I’ve been there. Hints that laundry list of achievements I just rattled off.
When I left corporate and started my yoga business 8 years ago, I never slowed down in my work, my practice or spiritual quest.
That was just it, everything was a quest, efforting and striving that only drew me further into my masculine and deeply out of my divine feminine.
There was no enjoyment, no rest, no play, no receptivity, no intimacy, only more to accomplish.
Sis, that ain’t it.
The nectar of life is found in liberty, love and fulfillment, all of which are obtained in our divine feminine center through our daily habits/practices.
If you’re achieving to fulfill a childhood need, I want to let you know the achievement is not required to fill the need, YOU ARE.
You, embodied, and that’s exactly what we will do in these 6 weeks.
